Traditionally, songs are about love and romance and the pain of break ups.
But how to get your ex girlfriend back in your life?
How can she be convinced to return to you?
Here are some ways to get your ex girlfriend back.
There’s no guarantee that any of them will work. Much depends on the reasons why she’s your “ex”.
A few of these ways to get ex girlfriend back are related to the reasons for the break-up, such as cheating on her, or lying to her. Others are more general, for those cases where no specific reason was actually given for a break-up.
The relationship may have just “fizzled out”.
No matter what the cause for the break-up, these are some tried and tested methods to get your ex girlfriend back.
Try one, all of them, or a few in between. Whatever one you choose to try first, that may be all you need to get your ex girlfriend back.
1. Self Analysis and Self-Improvement
If you aren’t sure of the reason why your ex girlfriend dumped you, it’s time to do some self-evaluation.
Perhaps the clothes you wore were old and out of date. Maybe your hair was longer than she liked. It’s possible you gained some pounds due to her great cooking skills.
Think back to any complaints she may have made, or hints dropped. “Is that the ONLY jacket you have?” or “Are you trying to have longer hair than I have?” may not have been joking questions.
Weight gained can be lost, hair can be cut, and new clothes purchased. Other things might take a little more work, such as learning to bite your tongue and stop insulting your friends, neighbors, and coworkers constantly.
But, how will she know you’ve made some changes?
Because you’ll do that in the next step!
2. Keep in Touch
This doesn’t mean calling her or texting her several times daily.
It does mean an occasional call to see how she’s doing, or an email here and there.
It wouldn’t hurt to attach a photo of the “new you” in an email, either.
Don’t forget special occasions, such as her birthday.
Most likely she’ll be touched that you haven’t “forgotten” her.
This also shows her that you do care about her. Just keep it light and easy for a while. This can work if it was a gentle breakup.
If the breakup was because of something you did, an effective apology can work wonders.
Even if you don’t feel as if you were wrong, if she thinks you were, the breakup might be final unless you can swallow your pride and apologize.
Flowers are nice, but communication with words is essential.
Be open to being wrong, and admit to being wrong.
You can always discuss it more, later – and it’s possible if you apologize, her perspective might change and she might be willing to admit to her part in something, too.
4. Rekindle the Friendship
This needs to be done a bit cautiously, because you don’t want to seem to overeager and scare her away.
This can be combined with “Keeping in Touch”.
Take her out just for coffee – on a “friendship basis”.
Find out what’s going on in her life, what she might need some help with.
5. Get Yourself Together
It may take a little time, but you need to get yourself together physically and emotionally.
Learn to live without her.
Go out with friends – and have a good time.
Talk to others.
Do things on your own.
It will give you back some self-confidence – something that may be in short supply, especially if you were the one who was dumped.
Learn something new, or rekindle a hobby you might have neglected. Adopt a dog from a shelter and get out and meet other people with dogs.
When you do get a chance to talk to her, you’ll have something to talk about. She might be impressed by the “new you” and be willing to give it another go.
6. Deal with Jealousy
If you hear she’s dating someone else, or has even gone out once with another guy, don’t call or text her and grill her on it.
First of all, it’s technically not your business what she does, especially if you aren’t together.
If jealousy was a major problem for you when you were together with her, you need to deal with this before rekindling any friendship, let alone a romance.
While a hint of jealousy might be nice, most girls find overall jealousy very unappealing and smothering.
7. Give Her Some Time
It may be a good idea to give your girlfriend some time to adjust to being alone.
She will probably start missing you and call you herself.
8. Be Romantic
Most women like romantic stuff.
So it may be a good idea to buy her something which she will truly like and touch her heart.
A bouquet of flowers or a small momento related to your apology may do the trick.
9. Show Her that You Care
You need to show her that you are truly sorry for your actions, and that you regret having hurt her.
Then, demonstrate this regret by doing something and proving that you really want to make things right.
Words alone will not suffice – support them by actions.
Be there with her when she needs someone. That will show her that you still care for her even after your break up.
10. Be Open to Her Needs and Suggestions
When you approach her, your ex girlfriend will probably start telling you what you did wrong, and she might be hurtful.
Try to remain calm, and understand that she is in pain.
Let her tell you what she needs to say, and show her that you are willing to change and to see what she needs.
Having said that, it is important that you make sure that she is willing to listen to you and to try to change things which make you upset.
For a relationship to work it is important that each party understands his/her mistakes and tries to change for the best.
Hope you have got some ideas now on how to get your ex girlfriend back.
As I have said many times on this blog,
Have a STRATEGY in place and EXECUTE it!
If you do this, you will definitely get your ex girlfriend back.
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